"It's worth waiting for."
"Wait until it isn't a choice."
I have been fortunate in my life to know many, many people who are deeply in love. I see it all the time, all around me, the support and connection of commitment that comes without effort. Not that the happiness of the relationship comes without effort (for that is the work that bears the greatest fruit), but that the commitment itself is not a question. There is a with and a we that becomes as natural and normal as... well, anything else in life.
In these days of so much kind-of connection via the Internet, it seems even harder to let life lead. To just put effort into the things you enjoy, get out of the house, and let love find you can seem impossible.
Even if you have found your partner, you can lose precious time to the computer when you could be holding hands, smiling at each other, helping out, or expressing appreciation or support.
Whether you're single or partnered, think of this this Valentine's Day: Make yourself happy first and the relationship you find will always bring you back to that version of yourself: the person you were that day when you first knew, when you first felt it, when you first realized that you were getting to know the person you would be with for the rest of your life. Then you get the best of both people: a happy, loving you, and the person you fell in love with when you were most at ease in yourself.
Recipe for the Experience of Love:
Take a moment when you would be doing something else, and lay down on your bed or on the floor.
Get comfy. Put a pillow under your knees, make sure you are nice and warm.
Now soften your whole body, your whole mind, your whole heart.
Luxuriate in doing absolutely nothing but softening, melting, being.
Accept absolutely everything in your conscious awareness. Every thought, every itch, every sound.
Be the center in the storm.
Happy Valentine's, and thank you for reading!